Monday, March 31, 2014

Affirmation of Sensitivity

There's never been a better time to be a sensitive man. Society has began to except the role of male emotions. Many sensitive men are still fearful that they will fail, that the world will walk all over them if they don't put on a strong face. Wether at work or when it comes to relationships are finding it hard to navigate a world that still expects men to be "manly," to hide their emotions and face adversity with bravery and confidence.

It is time for sensitive men to express to the world how they feel, and show that emotions can be a powerful motivator in progress, both professionally and personally. 

So resolve to:
  1. Own your Manliness. Yes, you are a man. You’re strong, sensitive, passionate and scared. Celebrate your depth, show it off.
  2. Make no apologies. You are who you are. Confident yet commiserate. If a woman is turned off by your sensitivity, she is not the woman for you!
  3. Be glad to be delicate. You don’t always have to put on a tough act. Tell yourself you feel—and thank goodness for that!
  4. Don’t try to “prove” your “macho-ness” by doing yard work. You don’t have to mow the lawn just because you’re a man,  Never feel that you have to tailor your behavior to meet outdate stereotypes. 
  5. Never act smarter than you are. You’ll only play yourself in the end, you are who you are, you don’t need to use big words on complex topics to impress a woman. You don’t have to remake yourself to fit societies image. 
  6. Trust you instincts. If you aren’t ready to be in a long-term relationship, ignore the taunts that you can’t commit to anything. You don’t have to be in any rush to “settle down,” when the time is right you will know. 
  7. Enjoy her being the breadwinner. Revel in following your dreams. Money shouldn’t be your only motivator. You woman making more money than you does not make you slothful.
  8. Understand that being sensitive is not a value judgement. It is your personality type, and you need to use this to fulfill your potential. 
  9. Never blame yourself exclusively for problems in a relationship. Men have been trained to believe they are supposed to act strong and never show emotions. In a relationship she needs to respect your emotions, and allow you to express them.
  10. Understand that it may take some time for you to find the right partner. Know that you don’t have to “settle” for a partner who doesn’t live up to a realistic standard. 
  11. Look past the Alpha females who may initially attract you. Their strong personalities will stick out from the pack, but my end up drowning you out. Find a woman who respects who you are and can meet you half way in building a lifelong relationship. 
  12. Never be ashamed by your sexual appetites. You are a strong, sensitive, energetic male. You crave sex, and you shouldn’t feign docility, find a woman who can fulfill your desires. 
  13. Get used to the idea that personality traits like, compassion, dominance, sensitivity, and risk-taking are neither masculine or feminine. Choosing a partner just like you may not work nearly as well as one who complements you. 

Andy Steinmetz is in no way a Ph.D., of anything, nor has he bothered to study any psychology outside of bachelor's level prerequisite courses and has author exactly zero books on the subject of sensitive men.

This is in response to a Huffpost blog by Dr. Sonya Rhodes entitled, Affirmation of Alpha

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